Here at Lisa Kift Therapy, we try to help people overcome the idea of “life is hard.” Seriously. Because the moment you believe that, your life will become hard. It is a very easy prophecy to become self-fulfilling.
If you don’t believe me, try it right now. Keep repeating to yourself: “Life is hard,” “I don’t have any money,” “I am an idiot” over and over again. Sure enough, life will get hard. You may think that times are tough right now? Well, they can get much, much worse. And it all begins with your mindset.
This is why it’s a good idea to look at all your decisions, regardless of how seemingly small, from a new perspective. For example, if you are looking for the best car parts shop online, you can say that this is a hard process. You can say that it’s almost impossible. You can say that this is not going to lead to a good place because you have been burned before.
You can keep leaning on the bad experiences that you had to poison your future. You’re more than welcome to do that, but let me tell you, the outcome is not very good. You probably already know this because you’re living that kind of reality.
Now, what if you told yourself that finding the best car parts shop online is not hard? You keep repeating this. And then when you go to the right websites and you navigate, you play this script in the back of your head. Things start to fall into place.
You start identifying the right car parts to do the right job, and then you buy it at the right price, you install it on your car, and you have the right experience. Repeat this again and again, and what will happen? You feel more in control. You feel like there is a direction and purpose to your life. You feel alive.
Instead of being this person stuck in the back screwing up all the time and not really living life to its fullest, you feel like you actually can have an impact on your life, and you feel full, alive, aware, and awake. Isn’t that awesome?
And the best part to all of this is that it began with a small decision. It began with changing your attitude towards basic, everyday consumer product decisions that you do all the time. These are not empty decisions. These are not small details in your life.
By starting with the small stuff, turning things around, looking at things from a totally different perspective, you start building a new life for yourself. A lot of people try to do this the opposite way. They try to tackle the big issues, and they end up failing.
Start with the small stuff because it’s the small stuff that adds up to the medium stuff, which then adds up to the large stuff in your life. Regardless of whether you go through the front door or the back door, you need to get through for you to make any progress.